Family, Friends, Holidays, Xan & Bob

A Different Thanksgiving That Can Make A Difference

With Thanksgiving in America tomorrow there is a lot of talk about how different the holidays will be this year. Why wouldn’t they be different…everything else about 2020 has been different.

For those who are used to family traditions and your family being together for Thanksgiving…I say hold on to the memories and cherish them. Celebrate them.

Since my dad passed away over thirty years ago my Thanksgivings have never been the same. I remember the last Thanksgiving our family had together…not knowing it would be the last. Thanksgivings have been different.

For many years I lived across the country from where my mom lived and traveling home for the holidays wasn’t always possible. That meant Thanksgivings were different.

I’ve spent Thanksgivings sitting by a hospital bed holding the hand of a loved one…wishing that Thanksgiving was different.

I moved to Australia where Bob and I did the best to create Thanksgiving with friends and family who didn’t know how important the holiday was to me. They were different Thanksgivings.

Many, many years Thanksgiving was just the two of us. We still celebrated and made a feast and counted our blessings. They were different Thanksgivings.

We spent a few years in North Carolina sharing Thanksgiving with my cousin Donna and her husband Carl. Most of those years we went to a restaurant and ate the feast and counted our blessings. They were different Thanksgivings.

When we moved to Spain, I expected Thanksgivings to be just Bob and me again. And that would have been just fine with me. But, we decided to share this celebration of gratitude with our new friends here. And when we were in the States two years ago, these friends told us that we would just postpone Thanksgiving until we returned. So, that December 22nd we had Thanksmas with these dear friends. That was a different Thanksgiving.

Now, here we in 2020. Catalunya currently has a restriction of gatherings to six people. Which means that we cannot share Thanksgiving with all of our friends this year. Instead, we will share our Thanksgiving with four of our friends. In the Spring, when things get better we plan to have another Thanksgiving with all of them. Of course, that will be a different Thanksgiving as well.

Whether you are with family or friends in person or via Zoom remember that there are others celebrating the same way. There are also all those wonderful people who cannot be with their family or friends in person or via Zoom as they are working to help others and protect others. Remember to give thanks to them.

This is a time to be grateful. This is a time to count your blessings. This is a time to thank others for making a difference in your life and it is a time to make a difference in someone else’s life. Pick up the phone, send a text message, send a silly ecard (yes, they still exist), whatever method you choose…just be sure to tell people that you care and that you love them. Be thankful for what you have not bitter for what you don’t.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.

~Melody Beattie

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